‘Oh he’s very advanced’ I watch a mum brag as her baby son put a square shape in a square hole…. ‘he’s a genius’ she continued……I wanted to laugh but realised she was being serious. Sure, I thought, he could go on to put ALL the square shapes in all the square holes, travel the world putting square shapes in square holes, save lives putting square shapes in square holes or maybe he’s just a baby and he has figured that out?!
Who are we comparing our babies to when we look at what they should/shouldn’t be doing at their age? It’s bad enough society put pressure on 11 year olds to do exams, but do you know what the exams prove? Nothing. It proves they are good in exams. The same with babies, why do we have these milestones? What they should be doing…. if I followed the milestones I’m sure it will say she ‘should be crawling’ but Jasmine wants to drag herself along the floor with one elbow whilst holding a coaster in the other, do you know what? That’s fine by me – because she’s just Jasmine.
She’ll create her own milestones and do amazing things. Maybe she’ll compete in the ‘coaster carrying Olympics’ one day, where you can only use one arm! She’ll be laughing at all the others she beats who probably crawled ‘properly’ as babies.
Let’s worry less about the milestones their not hitting and champion the things they do beautifully, for example Jasmine can find ANY wire in a room, no matter how well I think it hidden – it’s very impressive.
So will she win the baby milestone championships? Will she be equal to the intelligent of square shape baby? Probably not. But I will teach her that she can do anything she bloody well wants to in life, and for now, she’s Just Jasmine and she’s a pretty great version of who she is.